tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post8872646350876349230..comments2023-07-02T01:36:27.238-07:00Comments on 18 Years to Life: WAHM, SAHM, Working Mom. Why Can't We All Just Get Along?The Lifershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940701367464910810noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-73419492340579425652011-06-03T21:47:01.310-07:002011-06-03T21:47:01.310-07:00Hi Anonymous - Thanks for stopping by. So true, fa...Hi Anonymous - Thanks for stopping by. So true, fathers really do get off Scot-free in this whole discussion. Equalizing that particular debate is incredibly daunting. I'll have to check out that Slate article. (Dana)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-27132325505980508142011-06-03T19:48:34.234-07:002011-06-03T19:48:34.234-07:00Love the post! How about some recognition of diff...Love the post! How about some recognition of differences within the working mom group. Women in the work place also torture themselves and each other with comparison. www.primarydilemma.com tries to break the vicious and discouraging cycle.Lynnhttp://www.primarydilemma.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-23208478524658846032011-06-03T19:25:56.763-07:002011-06-03T19:25:56.763-07:00Thank you so much for this articulate and thoughtf...Thank you so much for this articulate and thoughtful discussion. I note that the fathers aren't mentioned and it reminded me of a favorite line from a Slate article written by Michael Agger: "The work/life balance is one of many child-raising issues that men can sidestep (starting with actually giving birth to the child). Men get credit for staying at home. Men get credit for going to work. Women get criticized no matter what choice they make." Check out his "Freaky Fortnight" switch with his wife in 2009 at http://www.slate.com/id/2231321/entry/2233377/.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-48573094419248000922011-05-27T21:29:15.331-07:002011-05-27T21:29:15.331-07:00Ado, yeah, it can be hard not to judge sometimes b...Ado, yeah, it can be hard not to judge sometimes but I think that generally, there are so many institutional challenges that make it hard on moms, no matter what their role. If we could improve things like maternity leave, time off to care for sick kids, etc., it would help level the playing feel for a lot of people.<br /><br />Murdoc - thanks for stopping by. <br /><br />(Dana)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-50699059623954674912011-05-27T16:17:59.031-07:002011-05-27T16:17:59.031-07:00great post! http://www.lynnaluvers.com/2011/05/cel...great post! http://www.lynnaluvers.com/2011/05/celebrating-news-anchor-mom-on-mothers.htmlmurdochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12472305555993827435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-30610856410851527462011-05-25T14:59:05.802-07:002011-05-25T14:59:05.802-07:00I'm a SAHM who admires - but doesn't reall...I'm a SAHM who admires - but doesn't really envy - working moms. I want to be where I'm at and I'm fine w. moms who want to work, and I get it - some of my girlfriends say they'd be bored out of their wazoo as a SAHM, and I do once in a while envy them their "adult me time" they get during the day, doing "important stuff." Once, I judged. I have a girlfriend who is a worker bee/career girl & she got laid off and had a 4 month break - so I said, "You are so lucky now you can take your newborn out of daycare" - baby was in there 6 AM to 6 PM daily. And my friend shocked me when she said, "I'm not doing any such thing." She left her in there! I couldn't believe it! Was shocked & judgemental! However - pleased to report that 8 years later, this child is normal, sweet, happy - no different than my overly-smothered one. So - that says something - I'm not sure what, but it says somethin'...Adohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16810706315747880800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-34588220986588490462011-05-24T14:34:53.323-07:002011-05-24T14:34:53.323-07:00Awesome post. Could not have said any of it better...Awesome post. Could not have said any of it better! Personally, I hate the labels. I am actually a WAHM, but I always call myself a SAHM, because I find that it invites fewer questions!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13453449160923172430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-18052547735736626492011-05-24T14:18:05.643-07:002011-05-24T14:18:05.643-07:00Oh Dana. I do love you. This was perfectly writt...Oh Dana. I do love you. This was perfectly written...honest and forthright. I will be featuring this on my fb page for all 45 of my peeps to read. :) Thank you.January Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539860749434822861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5371747530345469279.post-55023452765008587442011-05-24T13:58:19.941-07:002011-05-24T13:58:19.941-07:00Bravo. Very well said. I am "The Working Mom&...Bravo. Very well said. I am "The Working Mom" working my way to WAHM status- I read this post while on my lunch break. I enjoyed your post very much and will definitely share your insight with my other mommy friends. Hugs & High Fives to all Mommies!Life by Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03862272761020672271noreply@blogger.com